Navigating the journey of being the eldest comes with its unique set of challenges. People may assume she is resilient and okay because she’s the firstborn, which sometimes makes it difficult for her to open up. There exists an unintentional expectation surrounding her, demanding her to be kind, smart, well-mannered, well-dressed, intelligent, respectful – essentially, the epitome of a role model daughter, granddaughter, sister, wife, and mother. Despite this weighty burden, she carries it without complaint.
While she exudes independence, strength, and bravery, beneath the surface, there's a yearning for someone to lean on, someone who doesn't expect the world from her. She graciously fulfill the diverse roles in her life, maintaining a flawless facade, yet deep inside, she desires moments when she can simply be without the weight of expectations.
Her resilience speaks volumes, and she manages to love fiercely, understanding the various languages of experience as the third head of the family. It's essential for those around her to recognize the substantial expectations placed upon her and to be patient, understanding the intricate balance she tries to maintain between fulfilling societal expectations and nurturing her own needs.
Dearest eldest daughter of the House, I understand your weariness, the exhaustion that comes from giving your all and yet feeling like it's never enough. Your yearning for a space where you are cared for instead of always being the caregiver. Your love for the family shines brightly, yet in the quiet moments, you long for someone to reciprocate, to bring a smile to your face.
As you bear the responsibility of being the elder daughter, I implore you to consider choosing yourself. It's okay to prioritize your well-being and pursue what brings you joy. Embrace the idea that you are deserving of care, not just for others but for yourself. It's a journey worth taking, and in doing so, you may discover a renewed sense of fulfillment and happiness.
In the tapestry of family dynamics, your role is significant, and your contributions are valued. Remember that you are not alone in your journey; your experiences, struggles, and triumphs connect you with others who understand the language of being the firstborn. Embrace the complexities of your identity, and find the strength to choose yourself and your own happiness, for you truly deserve it.
